How do I stop people asking me for adult!?

How do I stop people asking me for adult!?

24 posts
26 Dec 2013
bacardi
Model
bacardi
Hi everyone, I'm not sure if I must look like an adult model or what it is about me but I'm sick of people messaging me about adult work. I have made sure my profile states that I do not do adult and also made sure I have not ticked the box for adult but yet I still get photographers messaging me about it and some even pushing it slightly after I have said no. I don't want to come across as ignorant or rude by ignoring when people when they ask me about it but I would like some advice of what else I should put on my profile to stop people asking in the first place?

Posted 26 Dec 2013
redbaron
Photographer
redbaron
The ignorant ones are the photographers who deliberately go around ignoring models clearly stated limits.

Report email and block seems the obvious route. Even if the odd one does come back suggesting something within your limits it will only be with the hope they can pressure you into working to higher levels later.

Posted 26 Dec 2013
Amber6
Model
Amber6
You can't really. Looking at your profile, your levels are clearly stated, and I can't see how you can really make it much clearer. I can only assume that they are chancres, and wondering that if because you do open leg/UK mag, if they can be the ones to push you into doing full on top shelf stuff (photographers make a mint if they are the first ones to shoot someone at a high level).
It's not your fault at all, it's theirs. Just reply back a firm, 'No, as it states on my profile I do not' and then block if if you fancy doing that.

I'm not sure… maybe someone else can answer this, but if you have said 'NO' to first message, (plus it's on your profile you don't do certain things) and then they send another message pushing, then surely that is 'level pushing/badgering' and can be reported to admins?

Posted 26 Dec 2013
Gerry99111
Photographer
Gerry99111
I would consider amending the text to read "PLEASE NOTE, I DO NOT WISH TO RECEIVE REQUESTS FOR ADULT AND ANY THAT IGNORE THIS POLITE REQUEST WILL BE REPORTED".

At the moment, you just say you will ignore their requests for adult. As they are not interested in anything else, they don't care if you ignore them, so they will ask anyway.

If enough people report the same profile for what is in effect level pushing, the site admin may take the view they are a pest and deal with them

Posted 26 Dec 2013
I state I only do adult for publication and still get chances who obviously haven't read my profile.

If I get a message asking for high levels from someone that is not publishing I tend to put "sure but I'd be charging you a "fan rate" of £300ph"

That tends to shut them up - haven't had any replies back since!

Posted 26 Dec 2013
Socialdisaster
Photographer
Socialdisast..
You can't stop them, end of. Yes, it sucks. I'm fairly certain the moment you have have glamour / nude shots on your port, the chancers will think you do more. if I were you, I'd just block them, that's the easiest. Now, it's not a defense but I am going to add something here. There are many models who do work to higher levels than they state here. There are more than a few that state "no open leg, no adult" who, in fact, do. When I put an adult CC out I can guarantee I will get models who don't do adult responding and, every time, I mailed them back and ask them if they realize - and they do. They just don't advertise it and often they say this is simply to put off what they feel are GWCs. My point is that while no photographer should ignore your levels ever, the flipside is a community where it's not hard to imagine a model does higher levels.
Posted 26 Dec 2013
ChrisD
Photographer
ChrisD

How do I stop people asking me for adult!?  ... You cannot.

Posted 26 Dec 2013
Edited by ChrisD 26 Dec 2013
digitalmood
Photographer
digitalmood
what do you actually consider to be adult work? I would consider open leg to be adult - but this is a quote from your profile "Prices start from £20ph for up to art nude, minimum of 2 hour booking required plus travel costs. Please contact me for open leg, half/full day prices. I will consider negotiation when it comes to costs depending on circumstance."
Posted 26 Dec 2013
Socialdisaster
Photographer
Socialdisast..
digitalmood
what do you actually consider to be adult work? I would consider open leg to be adult - but this is a quote from your profile "Prices start from £20ph for up to art nude, minimum of 2 hour booking required plus travel costs. Please contact me for open leg, half/full day prices. I will consider negotiation when it comes to costs depending on circumstance."
Oh wow... i didn't see that! open leg = adult for sure. thread suddenly doesn't look so good
Posted 26 Dec 2013
bacardi
Model
bacardi
Thanks for advice everyone. I personally never considered UK open leg as adult unless toys, fingers, spreading ect are involved. Probably best to remove the 'open leg' off my profile as it seems in general a lot people consider it as adult.

Posted 26 Dec 2013
digitalmood
Photographer
digitalmood
thats better Jess - you've changed it


Posted 26 Dec 2013
HowardJ
Photographer
HowardJ
Amber6
You can't really. Looking at your profile, your levels are clearly stated, and I can't see how you can really make it much clearer. I can only assume that they are chancres, and wondering that if because you do open leg/UK mag, if they can be the ones to push you into doing full on top shelf stuff (photographers make a mint if they are the first ones to shoot someone at a high level). It's not your fault at all, it's theirs. Just reply back a firm, 'No, as it states on my profile I do not' and then block if if you fancy doing that. I'm not sure… maybe someone else can answer this, but if you have said 'NO' to first message, (plus it's on your profile you don't do certain things) and then they send another message pushing, then surely that is 'level pushing/badgering' and can be reported to admins?
What she said.
Posted 26 Dec 2013
PeterH
Photographer
PeterH
Maybe change your name? I can think of two adult models called Jessica Fox, one of them is from Shefield, too.

The two main reasons you get asked have already been outlined, people just don't care, the ask on the basis that if you ask enough times, someone will say yes, and there are many girls who say they don't but really they do, (secret levels) and people are asking if you'e one of the secret levels models.
Posted 26 Dec 2013
ChrisD
Photographer
ChrisD
PeterH

Maybe change your name? I can think of two adult models called Jessica Fox, one of them is from Shefield, too.

The two main reasons you get asked have already been outlined, people just don't care, the ask on the basis that if you ask enough times, someone will say yes, and there are many girls who say they don't but really they do, (secret levels) and people are asking if you'e one of the secret levels models.

+1
Posted 26 Dec 2013
ChrisD
Photographer
ChrisD
Socialdisaster

You can't stop them, end of.

There are many models who do work to higher levels than they state here. There are more than a few that state "no open leg, no adult" who, in fact, do. When I put an adult CC out I can guarantee I will get models who don't do adult responding and, every time, I mailed them back and ask them if they realize - and they do. They just don't advertise it and often they say this is simply to put off what they feel are GWCs. My point is that while no photographer should ignore your levels ever, the flipside is a community where it's not hard to imagine a model does higher levels.


Socialdisaster makes a valid explanation here.
Posted 26 Dec 2013
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