Parents Opinions

23 posts
23 July 2012
What do you parents think of what you do, modeling wise or photography? When I started my mum didn't talk to me for 3 weeks, which is quite an achievement considering we live in the same house! She asked what my boyfriend thought, expecting me to say he hated it (he's very proud of me and knows its raised my self confidence) she seems to think I don't respect myself which I do. And that I go and shoot with random "creeps" , I always do a little background check before, I'm much more intelligent than she thinks. My dad is fine with it, he just wants to know I'm safe. I just wondered if anyone has had negative feed back from family or friends?

Posted 23 July 2012
Socialdisaster
Photographer
Socialdisaster
Well.

My father is on PS as a photographer. So...

Posted 23 July 2012
Both are happy and proud of me, Mum always likes seeing everything I do.. Dad doesn't like seeing the nude pictures.. My grand parents are also proud, they went around their village handing out my business cards :-S My sister doesn't "get it", she thinks nudity is horrible and that photographers are all perverts but she is the type who think s most things she doesn't understand are disgusting. Strange thing is in the beginning before I got paid her issue with it was because I was doing it for nothing, now her feelings haven't changed she still thinks its "weird". I will never change her mind, she is who she is haha.

Some people will never understand it. Its their problem rather than ours

On a side note it might have helped that I lived with my parents when I started modelling, some of my bestfriends are photographers now - my parents have met a few photographers and enjoyed their company. My mum and dad both know how much modelling means to me and how happy it makes me so to them as long as i'm happy and not hurting myself then there is no harm in what I choose to do with myself.
Posted 23 July 2012
Edited by Chrissie_Red 23 July 2012
Ali_L
Model
Ali_L
My mother hates it, I'm not allowed to mention it when I'm round, and I don't do anything vaguely revealing! Silly woman... :P But she won't stop me from doing it, as long as I know I'm safe.
My Da's proud of me, likes to know what's happened, and see the images too, but he barely speaks to me, so it's not really that much support.
I think my friends and boyfriend are the most supportive to be fair, much more so than my family.

Posted 23 July 2012
skymouse
Photographer
skymouse
Chrissie_Red

Some people will never understand it. Its their problem rather than ours


100% spot on

I'm in the fifth decade of my life so it wouldn't make sense for me to make my choices according to people's perceptions and impressions. Plus it's my job which I've been publicly associated with for years, anybody can find my occupation with a few keystrokes, and I've even been on TV discussing it a few times, so it's kind of "out there" by now

Posted 24 July 2012
Phil_M
Photographer
Phil_M
My parents, despite their age (70's) are actualy quite immature about it.

My dad has a sort of Benny Hill reaction to some of my stuff. A Sid James chuckle and a smile. Many of the younger models may not recognise these references but just think 70's seaside postcard humour and you're there.

My mum, she chuckles and usualy says something like, "she wants to go home and put her vest on, she'll get chin cough" (whatever that is) She is also curious about how it all works, questions like, "why do models want to take their clothes off in front of strangers?" I mean, how do you answer that succinctly !!? How do you explain that the question is wrong?

Ive stopped showing my stuff to my mum. If its not posed and lit like a photo booth and the model isnt smiling like a school photo ..she doesnt get it. By way of example, there is a levitation type photo on my portfolio with the model, Poppy, floating in front of a window. Im quite proud of it. My mums first reaction? "Why is she doing that?"

Posted 24 July 2012
MattButlerPhoto
Photographer
MattButlerPhoto
Everyones cool with it! Gf and parents. Though to be fair my gf occasionally gets jealous but not in an overly negative way.

Posted 24 July 2012
Follyhouse
Photographer
Follyhouse
PhilMairs

My parents, despite their age (70's) are actualy quite immature about it. My dad has a sort of Benny Hill reaction to some of my stuff. A Sid James chuckle and a smile. Many of the younger models may not recognise these references but just think 70's seaside postcard humour and you're there. My mum, she chuckles and usualy says something like, "she wants to go home and put her vest on, she'll get chin cough" (whatever that is) She is also curious about how it all works, questions like, "why do models want to take their clothes off in front of strangers?" I mean, how do you answer that succinctly !!? How do you explain that the question is wrong? Ive stopped showing my stuff to my mum. If its not posed and lit like a photo booth and the model isnt smiling like a school photo ..she doesnt get it. By way of example, there is a levitation type photo on my portfolio with the model, Poppy, floating in front of a window. Im quite proud of it. My mums first reaction? "Why is she doing that?"




Posted 24 July 2012
Buddygb
Photographer
Buddygb
My mum loves it - she did a bit of bikini modelling in the 70's so understands the motivation. She particularly likes to read my feedback. She says it makes her happy to know so many people are saying nice things about me So no bad feedback, ever. You'll upset my mum and you wouldn't want to do that, would you? My dad's an artist and always railed against photography as not being a valid art form. After long discussions and showing him some of my stuff he eventually bought a camera and gave it a go. A year on he's sold it and gone back to his oils... still enjoys my work though. My brother thinks I'm a pornographer. My wife is very supportive and has often given me very sound advice (she used to do a bit of photography herself so has a good eye for it) and kept my feet on the ground. She has even been known to attend the odd shoot.
Posted 24 July 2012
My mum loves what I do and I always share my newest images with her. I've always said that if I wouldn't be happy showing my Mum the picture, I won't shoot it. I don't have a lot of contact with my Dad but I think he's ok with it. My grandparents won't shut up about it, telling all of their friends about it and shoving my pictures into everyone's faces exclaiming "THAT'S MY GRANDDAUGHTER!" I'm pretty sure my brother sees it as me "doing a bit of modelling" as a hobby or a phase. Which is fair enough, since I can't seem to get it into my head that he is an actual DnB DJ, rather than just "he does some DJing". He plays at the likes of Random Concept and HTID raves, so it's not exactly "just a bit of Djing". In all, I have a very supportive family
Posted 24 July 2012
gerryquiff
Photographer
gerryquiff
My Mum likes them in general, but wouldn't go looking for my work, even if she knew how.
A couple of my sisters like my non model stuff.
My 18 year old nephew has an interest in photography, and is hoping to accompany me on a shoot in the near future.

Posted 24 July 2012
twentytwenty
Photographer
twentytwenty
My Mother grew immune to it. my late Father was a pro photographer, my brother and his wife both are. so its kinda easy for me really

Posted 24 July 2012
Purple_Girl
Photographer
Purple_Girl
My dad likes it when I send him the odd image, he likes the pretty ladies, lol. He wants to learn about photography so he can photograph the birds in his garden but he doesn't really have the patience.

My sister is Ok with it generally but she thinks lingerie level and above is tacky, she's not really bothered to see any of those pics and I get the impression she thinks it's weird that my fella does it too.

My mum loves my nature/animal photography and she appreciates that shooting models brought me out of my shell a bit (I suffer social anxiety, so getting out and about in any way is a big thing for me) but like my sister, she isn't keen to see pics where the models aren't fully clothed. She's very old fashioned and just likes the pretty pictures of pretty girls in pretty outfits.
Posted 24 July 2012
Edited by Purple_Girl 24 July 2012
My mum is supportive (even if she still thinks I should at least take a part time job in the real world!) but my dad is absolutely oblivious and if his reaction to pageants was anything to go by, not exactly supportive.

Posted 24 July 2012
Spike
Photographer
Spike
My mum still asks me when I'm going to get a "proper job" despite the fact I've now been shooting professionally for 27 years (though recently I think it's more tongue in cheek) A few years back she had been involved in a discussion with work colleagues over their children's successes & the fact her son's topless photos had been used on Page 3 of The Sun did rather stand out from the "go to university, work for a bank".

My father (with whom my relationship has always been strained) did shut up in the middle of an argument where he accused me of generally being a waste of space when I pointed out that his waste of space son was shooting for Guiness, Gillette, QVC & HM Treasury.
Now he calls me for advice on his camera & to scrounge pictures I've taken of his granchildren.

My 1st wife use to complain because I earnt less than her from photography, & then moaned when I earn't more than her, I think she complained about everything - probably confirmed by the fact she's now on marriage number 5 (I was no. 1)

My (2nd)wife is great about what I do, but then when I met her her hobbies were scuba diving & underwater photography & I was a photographer & diving instructor.

Posted 24 July 2012
Edited by Spike 24 July 2012
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