confidence issues how do you cope?

confidence issues how do you cope?

12 posts
21 July 2012
Hi
Well im relatively new to this
Ive been on several shoots and had the pleasure of working with some great togs who know there stuff
But I suffered with anorexia and dysmorphia as a teen ive recovered or recovering whichever way you want to look at it
So just being able to go to shoots is a huge achievement for me and to say im a model
I do however get days when I think god youre not good enough to do this. (that never affects me turning up for a shoot or interferes with work in any way)
Do you get off days?how do you cope?any tips to feel good about yourself on those off days?
Any tips you find boost your confidence would be helpful
Thankyou

Posted 21 July 2012
I get like that, I put on a bit of wieght, not much, but it completely changed they way I thought I looked. I've gpt bipolar so some days its very had for me to get out of bed, but I force myself. I've found in most cases, unless they are a crappy photographer, a shoot really cheers me up and builds my confidence, especially when I get good images from it x

Posted 21 July 2012
I never get like that. I know I haven't got the best body, but I'm happy enough to be confident. Confidence is sexy! Your body is the only one you're gonna get, so rock it!

Xx

Posted 22 July 2012
sexyswindler
I never get like that. I know I haven't got the best body, but I'm happy enough to be confident. Confidence is sexy! Your body is the only one you're gonna get, so rock it! Xx
You would say that lol your stunning
Posted 22 July 2012
My confidence is non exsistant, i see other girls and compare myself all the time. Im thinking of getting a boob job (for myself) as after i had my little girl shes now 5 my boobs shrunk and now look like deflated balloons so that doesnt help my confidence and when i look in the mirror i just hate the person staring bk at me, so i would be so interested in knowing the answer to this too xx
Posted 1 Aug 2012
I remind myself what I went through as a kid/teenager (constant torment from the age of 10, even to this day) and that i'm lucky to have had the opportunities I have had, regardless of what i might think of myself on a bad day. Girls would kill to have been the places i've been and meet the people i've met. It would be sinful of me not to at least try and make the most of the opportunities i've been blessed with.

Posted 1 Aug 2012
fizzy
Model
fizzy
Everyone gets like this now and again. I just remind myself that even the most beautiful women I've ever seen have these same off days and have things they hate about their body too. I also try not to beat myself up for not looking like a fashion model. Yes, they're beautiful but that's not the only type of beauty in the world.

When I get really bad I go and get a cuddle or talk to my friends, or have a bath and read a good book. I try to distract myself from it.

Posted 1 Aug 2012
bravepioneer
Photographer
bravepioneer
fizzy

Yes, they're beautiful but that's not the only type of beauty in the world.


So true!
Posted 1 Aug 2012
Cinddy_
Model
Cinddy_
Every woman is beautiful in her own way, skinny,curvy,tall,short,whatever. Different Photographers are looking for different types of models. My boyfriend is my best confidence boost, he loves looking at my photos, cheers my up, supports me, he tells me every day that he is so proud of me,that I look great,and understands when I have bad days,so I can stay in bed all day and do nothing. I also know a few very supportive photographers who just boost my confidence every time we work together. Sometimes I read my feedbacks, it helps.

Posted 1 Aug 2012
I used to feel like this quite often but now I work full time with people who have learning and/or physical disabilities. My clients are faced with prejudice and segregation frequently and often have very limited control or choice of how they look. Yet, in general, they put all of this aside. They stick up a proverbial middle finger, face the world with a smile and 'get on with it'. That's my biggest example and one I still try to follow the best I can..

Posted 2 Aug 2012
Edited by melrobson02 1 Aug 2012
Like others have said its normal not to wake up thinking "god don't I look great today" - I never wake up thinking like that.

I do look like my pictures but they are not what I see when I look in the mirror, not sure if that makes much sense but that is how I generally feel.
It sounds weird but I have confidence in myself as a model - I know I'm a good model but I don't have confidence much in the way I look most of the time.
So I don't know if there is a secret other than keep on going until you are confident at what you are doing, if you don't feel confident just act confident.
Like if I smile even when I feel rubbish eventually I actually start to feel happy - maybe because my smiling makes others happy around me who knows.

I shoot fairly often with my partner and sometimes when I look at the back of the camera I think "god I look awful" and we stop shooting because I lose my mojo a little and my confidence.. A few weeks later I will look at the pictures again and forget what it even was I didn't like about them or the thing I disliked isn't even apparent to me anymore.

I don't generally look at other models and think "she has a better body/hair/face" I used to a bit at the start but now Its irrelevant to me, I admire other models and see their beauty but that is theirs and not mine. I think the older I get the more happier I am within myself, I don't really stress out anymore about how I look because one day we will all be old and wrinkly so we need to make the most of our youth and looks now.

x



Posted 2 Aug 2012
gerda_babbii
You would say that lol your stunning
Lol thank you
Posted 2 Aug 2012
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