Q. for adult/fetish/BDSM/models

Q. for adult/fetish/BDSM/models

18 posts
13 March 2012
Hallo. My boyfriend and I recently had a domestic. I came home after an 8 hour shoot and wanted a bath, a smoke and an early night. He wanted me to keep my outfit on and continue what I was doing with him. Aside from the fact I was exhausted about working all day which is something all models (and photographers) no doubt understand, it threw up another issue. Do you models ever find you're in a strange headspace after such an invasive and intense shoot? I found that after being objectified and told what to do all day, the last thing I want is to take that from my boyfriend. I don't mind it at work (actually, I quite like it) and I like it with my boyfriend, but not all in the same day. If you know what I mean, what do you do to cope with it? Other than smacking your boyfriend with a pillow and demanding he cooks you dinner by way of apology.
Posted 13 March 2012
pmeswani
Photographer
pmeswani
From a non-expert point of view, you are entitled to wind down and have a rest after a hard days work, regardless of whether you are modelling or not. If your partner doesn't appreciate that, then he has the problem, not you.

Posted 13 March 2012
Vas
Model
Vas
I don't think this is exclusive to adult/bdsm modelling to be honest. Sometimes you just need to be left alone to chill out - a partner should generally respect that.

Re: the bdsm aspect of it - when you've just done an intense scene, you really need to get 'back to reality', sort out blood sugars, rest, etc. Expecting somebody to do one after the other is really asking a lot, particularly in different environments, with different people and under different circumstances. I get the impression that you're done for the day, and he doesn't seem to understand that. I can't really offer any advice other than telling him he needs to understand!

Posted 13 March 2012
madala
Photographer
madala
Perhaps you should book a session for him to spend a day being the model in something equally 'intense.'
Posted 22 March 2012
mattharper
Photographer
mattharper
No one wants to spend their evening doing their day job all over again, within reason. Try it from a photographer's point of view, you look at and shoot a tasty 20 - 25 year old all day, then, when knackered, some old sow wants you to play with her saggy tits and ass. Stuff that (excuse the term) give me a vodka, my fags and a cuddle with the dogs I don't have an old sow, just the dogs, thankfully
Posted 22 March 2012
clearview_photography
Photographer
clearview_ph..
mattharper

No one wants to spend their evening doing their day job all over again, within reason. Try it from a photographer's point of view, you look at and shoot a tasty 20 - 25 year old all day, then, when knackered, some old sow wants you to play with her saggy tits and ass. Stuff that (excuse the term) give me a vodka, my fags and a cuddle with the dogs I don't have an old sow, just the dogs, thankfully



Are you saying when you get home you play with your dogs 'saggy tits and ass'

Posted 22 March 2012
mattharper
Photographer
mattharper
clearview_photography

Are you saying when you get home you play with your dogs 'saggy tits and ass'



They are both boys and they have vowed to savage you for saying they have saggy tits and asses  
Posted 22 March 2012
jes
Model
jes
clearview_photography

Are you saying when you get home you play with your dogs 'saggy tits and ass'



That's so cruel!  I mean, the dogs obviously aren't getting adequate exercise if they have saggy bits!
Posted 22 March 2012
Edited by jes 22 March 2012
jes
Model
jes
beauvoir

Hallo. My boyfriend and I recently had a domestic. I came home after an 8 hour shoot and wanted a bath, a smoke and an early night. He wanted me to keep my outfit on and continue what I was doing with him. Aside from the fact I was exhausted about working all day which is something all models (and photographers) no doubt understand, it threw up another issue. Do you models ever find you're in a strange headspace after such an invasive and intense shoot? I found that after being objectified and told what to do all day, the last thing I want is to take that from my boyfriend. I don't mind it at work (actually, I quite like it) and I like it with my boyfriend, but not all in the same day. If you know what I mean, what do you do to cope with it? Other than smacking your boyfriend with a pillow and demanding he cooks you dinner by way of apology.


If you were a nurse and had come home from a shift and he fancied a bit of role play, would that be acceptable?  Not if you were tired and wanted to chill out.  It's no different from you modelling and coming home tired.  I'd tell him to bog off!  I am single and share a bed with my Jack Russel though, so you might not want ot take advice from me!
Posted 22 March 2012
mattharper
Photographer
mattharper
jes

If you were a nurse and had come home from a shift and he fancied a bit of role play, would that be acceptable?  Not if you were tired and wanted to chill out.  It's no different from you modelling and coming home tired.  I'd tell him to bog off!  I am single and share a bed with my Jack Russel though, so you might not want ot take advice from me!


and I share mine with the two on the left  <
They are generally so much nicer than people
Jes excluded, obviously


Posted 22 March 2012
He's coming on a shoot with me so he can see how knackering it is.

Posted 23 March 2012
You already know that he should demonstrate consideration and respect for you or have goodies with held from in future...x

Posted 23 March 2012
clearview_photography
Photographer
clearview_ph..
mattharper

They are both boys and they have vowed to savage you for saying they have saggy tits and asses  


Just cos they're male doesnt mean they cant have saggy tits, sadly I have the proof

Im sure you wouldnt want your dogs eating anything with such a high fat content
Posted 23 March 2012
MikeRiot
Photographer
MikeRiot
beauvoir
He's coming on a shoot with me so he can see how knackering it is.
People who arent in the industry dont understand how shattering it can be shooting and modelling. And I'm not just talking about the adult scene either. Taking pictures can be mentally exhausting, posing for hours can be physically and mentally exhausting. People think models stand around all day and we just press a button. I can imagine how intense a fetish/BDSM shoot can be! It must be so draining!!!
Posted 23 March 2012
Odonata
Model
Odonata
MikeRiot
People who arent in the industry dont understand how shattering it can be shooting and modelling. And I'm not just talking about the adult scene either. Taking pictures can be mentally exhausting, posing for hours can be physically and mentally exhausting. People think models stand around all day and we just press a button. I can imagine how intense a fetish/BDSM shoot can be! It must be so draining!!!
ha ha ha i definatly dont just stand around. agree with this - the constant awearness for both parties is hard work . 100% focus is draining let alone the physical side - i'm still knackered from yesterday, and i didn't whip anyone!
Posted 23 March 2012
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