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02 August 2012 22:38
kayleigh90x
Model


Hi

I casually dropped it In to conversation with my boyfriend that I was wanting to do glamour modelling etc ... The response I received was completely unexpected. He was livid. Told me if I did it I was a slag, easy all the usual names. Then proceeded to say ur too fat and ugly, no1 would want to see u naked anyway. Which I thought was all pretty unnessecary.

I don't know if this has anything to do with his reaction... I'm 22, he's 36. I support him with his job (doorman) he's very good looking and I know he does get alot of attemtion from females (and males) at work, I don't have an issue with that. A jobs a job, its pays the bills.

He also has no issue in reading (i say reading, but I hardly think theres much of that going on) the magazines in which girls have their chests out and all the way to too shelf mags.... So If he can read them what's the problem in me having pics took, which realistically are not going to be published in a magazine! I'm well aware of how hard it is to be published etc and carve a career out of it and know I am off nowhere near that quality BUT what Im wondering is... Is he right and with justification or not wanting me to do it? Or am i being unreasonable?


Has any1 else ever Had to deal with this and come to am arrangement that suited both etc?


Confused !
Thanks Kayleigh x


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02 August 2012 23:01
frankpht
Photographer
frankpht
Location
United Kingdom
London


He's a 36 year old insecure boy. You have to ask yourself is your relationship got enough trust. The way you describe him slagging you off is uncalled for. Begs the question if he thinks no one would want to see you naked is he repulsed by your nakedness. Doubt it so it's his insecurities firing on all cylinders.

Talking and reasoning with him is the best you can do. Doesn't sound like he'll back down very easily so it's down to you. Do you want to stay in a relationship with a guy who will undermine you. There are recent posts on here dealing with the same issue.

I'm sure someone will point you to them. Good luck with it I hope it works out.


02 August 2012 23:24
kayleigh90x
Model


I trust him and I have never given him any reason not to trust me either.

Haha that was a mild and extremely toned down version of what he said. And yes that what I have also been wondering, If I am truely the hideous ogre he described me as, then why is he still with me... Hmm. Lol

I dont see anything wrong with it, every one has a body, there all just different shapes and sizes. Hes happy to look at similar sort of pics of other girls , who will have partners etc and he sees no wrong doing in that. The way he was going on u would think i had just announced I was about to do a porn film

Thanks I will have a look, its good to know I'm not the only one who Had s problem partner lol
Kayleigh


03 August 2012 00:41
JadedRed
Model


He's cheating you.

I'd put money on it.


03 August 2012 00:49
kayleigh90x
Model


I know he definitely isn't, he's either at work, gym trainin coz he bodybuilds, or with me...
He doesn't like me walking round house in underwear etc if curtains are open as we have male neighbours that can c In to our house and he says he doesn't want thereto c me with no clothes on.... Its not like they haven't seen a girl in underwear etc.


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03 August 2012 03:08
vipimages
Photographer
vipimages
Location
United Kingdom
Merseyside
Wirral

this thread should be a red flag for photographers
www.vipimages.co.uk www.vipstudios.co.uk


03 August 2012 03:17
kayleigh90x
Model


What do u mean by a red flag for photographers?


03 August 2012 03:22
twentytwenty
Photographer


Control freak, not good. you can look forward to a life chained to the kitchen sink.


03 August 2012 03:23
kayleigh90x
Model


I was only asking a question to find out whether that is norm for guys to be unhappy about their gf doing that or not???

It has no reflection upon my ability to work, I am more than capable of attending shoots and worling without interference from him, at the end of the day it is my choice to do that and if he Is not happy he knows where the door is, I will not b dictated to as to what I can and cant do.
Also he wont b present at shoots etc, any photographer I would shoot with I will have asked for references and then asked the model direct so I know I will be safe and not need a chaperone.

I'm guessing this is some of the reasons why I would want it red flagged maybe. Also he has no access to this account or any I'dra of its existion.

Kayleigh


03 August 2012 03:26
kayleigh90x
Model


No no no, nope. That will not happen... I have left relationships when I stayed In glasgow funny enough because my ex was a control freak. Like I saod i will not be told what p do by any1.




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